This is not accurate. Your sexual partner selection can be shaped by both parents, opposite-sex parent or same-sex parent. Men can fall for women who resemble their fathers in personality and women can fall for men with personality traits resembling their mothers. A crucial point is that we learn social behaviour by observing interaction between the people who raise us. This combined with your biologically inherent emotional traits, can determine your choice of intimate relationships.

Example: As a child you witness your mother being abused by your father. You observe your parents’ reactions towards each other and their interpretations of each other and themselves. Is you mother excusing your father’s behaviour and feeling sorry for him? Is she taking the blame? Is she angry and resentful? Is she leaning on you for support? Is your father regretful after the act or does he pretend like nothing happened? And what kind of child are you? A sensitive one? An energetic one? Introvert? Extrovert? Emotional? Easily exited? Robust? Fragile? Also, what are your environment’s expectations of you based on your gender, sexuality, cultural, social and economic status?

The role you take in relation to your parents, which is a role you have learned from them or other significant people in your life, will set you up to seeks familiarity in future relationships. Maybe you were your mothers support and carried her burdens, the way she carried your fathers burdens, so you look for friends and partners that need you to carry them. Maybe you felt resentful towards your father, the way he felt resentful towards your mother, so you look for people to resent, punish or control. Or maybe you tried to mediate between them and find yourself attracted to relations or jobs where you need to mediate.

There are a lot of variables here which make the claim in this piece simplistic and unhelpful. If you really would like to find out what draws you towards certain types of relationships, you should examine your childhood in general, the context you grew up in, your personality, the way you personally perceive things and why you perceive them that way. Remember that it’s not necessarily important how things were in your childhood, but how you felt they were. Siblings can have the same upbringing, but interpret events differently. And then look at your present relationships and try to find similarities; what are the general feelings that come up around the people you surround yourself with? Do you always try to fix others or do you pull away as soon as someone gets too close? Are you looking for unconditional love, the type of love only a child can ask for from their parents? Do you always feel like the victim? Ultimately I would recommend a deep dive into the subconscious and maybe some therapy.